I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin. I've been waiting to find the right person to loose it to, but recently I've felt that I should just loose it when i get the chance. I want some third person opinions. they'd be appreciated.

 

If you're willing to and she's willing to and you want to, then what the hell. You only live once.

 

haha, well there isn't any "she" in particular right now.

 

Thanks for the advice porter. seems like you were the only one willing to help. :?

 

Well... It's up to you if you want to. Losing it to someone important to you would probably be the best because chances are you won't regret doing it. If it's the first chance you get, you won't necessarily have that connection and it may not be everything you hope it to be.

So, if you feel you can't hold out and you just wanna get it out of you, then go ahead and have sex the first chance you get. Personally, I'd wait for someone who's right. (Though it sucks if you have that person, but you have to wait for them 'cause their annoying morals... >_>)

Either way, it doesn't matter if you're a virgin or not, just do what ya want though I suppose.

 

o hai!
menage' a trois? damn! starting off in the big leagues. eh slugger? i'd suggest getting what you can, when you can. use it or lose it. srsly, wet your wick as soon as possible, you be glad you did!
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Listen to Casa, he's the man.

 

chances are his first time will be a disappointment anyway. lol

But I totally agree with the rest of what you said. OP, it depends on what you're comfortable with. there is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18, or 20, or 22, whatever...if you are waiting for the right girl. and if you find her it will be that much more special.

But if you don't really care, and just want to get sexual now, then what the hell. give'r.

 

If you want to wait for the right one, wait. Nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you want to hit anything to get it over with that is fine also. At least you'd have some experience and may be a better lover when you do meet the right one. I'd hate to meet Miss right and lose her because she thought I sucked in the bedroom. If she is a virgin also you can learn together. Good luck on finding an eighteen year old virgin female, that is a rare breed.

 

live life and make it happen when it does. what happened to being spontaneous? planning these things doesn't seem a good idea to me. you'll know when the right time is.

 

Yea I agree with casadan.

Dnt worry about being 18 and a virgin though. I didnt lose mine untill I was 19, and not just turned 19 either I was closer to 20 than 19 lol.
However like you were originally thinking I wanted to wait for the right girl. I had several chances to do it with my ex gf, but I dont know something didnt feel right/I know I would end up regreting it. Sure enough we split up not long after because she was cheating on me.
When I met my current gf though I knew within a few weeks she was the one I wanted to be with. It was hell at times waiting 18month for her to feel ready to do it, but it was totally worth the wait. Because of all that time we spent with each other, I already knew everything about her. Nothing was a disapointment about mine at all. No "one hit wonder" from me, and I think that was mostly to do with the fact I knew her so well I was totally relaxed when we did it. It was great, and I wouldnt change it for the world.

 

Well, I was gonna say that but I was kinda pressed for time when I wrote my post

But yeah, the first time, from what almost everyone says is a dissapointement. But if it's with someone you care for, someone ya love and connect with, they'd understand, to where if it's anyone else, they may act a bit... harsher than that. For instance with the whole "Is that it?" thing or whatever like that...

You don't have to worry as much if it's with someone you connect with. Unless of course you lead the person on to believe your some sex god when you've had no experience...

 

good things come to those who wait. as passe as that is, it is mostly true.

when you least expect it, your dream girl and you will cross paths.
trust me.

 

It's a hard call really. I waited and waited until I was 19 then said screw it when I met a girl and 2 weeks later it happened.

We split up after a couple of months but I don't regret it. The sex was the best I've ever had.

 

Try experimenting before you jump straight into sex. If its a matter of all your new college budies making fun of you just tell them that your saving yourself for someone worthwhile but in the mean time you still go to third base. I would save yourself for someone you wont regret it with. You can only loose your virginity once!

 

id wait. drunk fucks or just oppurtunity arent that great

 

i agree with toxic
whats really bugging you?
your friends making fun?
seeing your mates getting plenty?

you are doing the right thing..........try to stop the negative thoughts

 

Seriously, do your own thing, if you want to have sex go for it, take the proper precautions of course, but if you don't want to or aren't that worried about either way, then wait. There's no harm in that.